.....I had dinner last night with a woman I met recently.she is friendly,attractive,and outgoing..........After dinner,before we went our separate ways,I asked her if she would like to attend my Church this Sunday,this is what she said:quite loudly:"NOPE,NO WAY,NOT A CHANCE-I HAVE NO USE FOR ORGANIZED RELIGION,WILL NOT HAVE IT PUSHED ON ME OR MY KIDS,I DO BELIEVE IN GOD,AND I AM A GOOD PERSON,AND..................ad infinitum......................Being that I am church congregation,and church COUNCIL member of my church,I have just a LITTLE(!!!) BIT of a feeling that this would,sooner or later-Become a point of contention,and GOD,and JESUS,is NOT a topic of "whether or not they exist"conversation in my life.If something this important in my life is a problem for someone else,its not worth pursuing.......Steve.
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had a date last night-1st,and last,too.........
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4EverHis102399
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Is your divorce final? If not, GOD will not send you "the right one" while you are still married. Until The big d is finalized, you belong to your wife and she you....whether you like it or not. A GOOD, GODLY woman will respect you for being off the market right now.
steve in so la
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4EverHis102399 said:
And that's the way it is guy!
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Anonymous
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I agree with Liz!! God won't send a good, godly woman with whom you can share your faith and love until the divorce is final and even then you should wait until God leads you to dating those who are right for you! Don't rush, Steve, or you will be in a bigger mess and with deeper regrets! God's timing is always the best for you and all of us! Amen! 
Ma Betty
Ma Betty
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Wow, Steve! Why the heck are you in such an all fired hurry to find a woman???????????? What you do is absolutely NONE of my business, however, when you put your business out there on the forum, it opens you up to comments. I have to agree with the others; don't expect God to bless any relationship that you get in to if your divorce isn't final. And it doesn't really look good for you to be out cattin around if it isn't final - or to be doing it this soon, even if it IS final. To be dating and/or looking for a woman while you are still married is flat out WRONG! And if the divorce IS final, it makes you look as if your marriage didn't mean that much to you and that you are not "grieving" the loss of your marriage. Since I don't personally know you and am not around you I can't say that I perceive it this way, but to those who DO know you, it could make them wonder if you had something going on with some of these women while still living with your wife... that this woman/ladies were hanging around waiting on you to be out of your marriage. It's too soon, either way. Like I said, it's none of my business (technically), but you DID open yourself up to the opinions & comments. I'm not judging you; I'm just putting in my two cents.
Lisa
Lisa
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I am sure this will raise some hackles but since when has that ever stopped me before...
My Grandfather use to say that women are like busses, If you mis one then just wait for a bit, another will be along shortly. (HAHAHA)
Seriously Do Not Sweat It. God will put the right one there for you in his time. Being lonely sucks for certain. Especially when you were in a bad and/or lonely marriage, and crave the companionship that can only come from a woman. I do not mean sexually either and I am sure most of you know that a woman provides a friendship that can not come from male friendships. My own best unsolicited advice is that the right one will come from church. Maybe not yours but a Christian church, and she will be drawn to the level of service that you invest in The Kingdom and probably does similarly in her own church.
You obviously know not to participate in missionary dating, or you would not have made this post in the first place.
God Bless, Prayers Sent
Jeff
My Grandfather use to say that women are like busses, If you mis one then just wait for a bit, another will be along shortly. (HAHAHA)
Seriously Do Not Sweat It. God will put the right one there for you in his time. Being lonely sucks for certain. Especially when you were in a bad and/or lonely marriage, and crave the companionship that can only come from a woman. I do not mean sexually either and I am sure most of you know that a woman provides a friendship that can not come from male friendships. My own best unsolicited advice is that the right one will come from church. Maybe not yours but a Christian church, and she will be drawn to the level of service that you invest in The Kingdom and probably does similarly in her own church.
You obviously know not to participate in missionary dating, or you would not have made this post in the first place.
God Bless, Prayers Sent
Jeff
As you can tell these people here care about you. That is why they are warning you to steer clear of dating till you are no longer married.
There is no hurry. In God's time bro.
There is no hurry. In God's time bro.
Warthog, be very, very careful. Lisa and others have made good, valid points. I am a divorced man, but happily remarried now going on 13 years. UNTIL you are legally divorced, you are still legally married. Some even say once married, always married. All depends on how you interpret the Bible. For instance, I am a Baptist. My current church, as many others say I cannot be a deacon, ordained to preach, etc... I can be a church officer and trustee, which I am. I know how it is to have been in a bad marriage and then to be "free" from that, but you have to be careful not to rush into any relationship, or you will be back where you are now rather quickly. Praying for you bro.