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I need input from you all on a most serious issue....

warthog

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..Sometimes in all our lives;we have to do something against our Christian nature-the time has come for me.Ive probably told you about that security guard at work-the world revolves around him;he is all ME:ME ME!!!-Well,for the past 1-2 years he has been at my workplace;he has made it his life's mission to criticize EVERYTHING I do,say,or have....he has told other co-workers that his only fun in life is harassing me;he seems to single me out constantly for this...I have tried to be a friend to him,invited him to church,resorted to the silent treatment and ignoring him-ALWAYS THE SAME-He makes a beeline to me,and its almost like he cant wait to stick it to me again-To the point that my peace of mind at work is being seriously undermined......NOW,those of you that know me know I dont like to be mean and offensive to people;but Im afraid if I dont put him in his place-as in telling him to go away and forget I ever existed-The old me is going to erupt;and cause a BIG scene at work.If I was to file a harassment report with his superiors,he would probably be terminated.NO;its not going to be to another co-worker,or his bosses Im going to complain to-it will be him and me,alone,so no one else hears...Ive been told he is the same to his friends outside work(HE HAS FRIENDS???:rolleyes:),and he will probably saay something like"WELL,I WAS JUST KIDDING!!I DIDNT KNOW YOU WERE SO SENSITIVE!!"One of my co-workers told me last week"all he wants is a friend!!".....I told him Well then-YOU go be his friend!!.....PLEASE HELP ME!!!WHAT can I say to him that will get thru to him,so that he leaves me alone???Steve
 
talk to him alone but tell him you have had enough. Tell him next time your going to the boss that way he cant bad mouth you that you didnt have the guts to say something to him first.
Greg
 
What would Jesus do? It is likely that he is looking for a friend and just tries too hard by using negative attention. Yes you need to talk with him alone, and tell him that you have tried to befriend him and that his antics have been trying your patience for a long time. Tell him that you yourself are still willing to be a friend and civil, but if he can't change his ways of treating you then tell him it would be best if he just leave you alone from this point on.
Pray about it first, that Christ would guide your words, that he would see Christ in you, and that he will be open to what you have to say. Let us know when you will be talking and we can pray too.

Mike
 
I agree with what Mike said. Try that & if nothing changes then go to step 2 and push him around a little to let him know you are serious. It'll get his attention.
It's either that or put up with him forever. I know this isn't a popular idea here but sometimes a man has to do things . And didn't Christ whip on the money lenders when they would not stop ?
Steve in so az
 
Praying for you WGSteve to have godly wisdom to know what to say and do! I have prayed for God to change people's hearts and change their ways or move them or me on out to a better job! Pray for good and you will see God work miracles! There are people in this world that are truly jealous of another person and there is no reason for it except to say God's children have His Holy Spirit within and those who constantly harrass us have the devil's spirit in them! If he wants to be friends, then pray for God to show him how to be a friend to others by having the love of our Savior, Jesus, within his heart! Changed hearts changes ways of livng and thinking; soooooo they are a friend and have a friend or friends!

He probably doesn't like himself and tries to feel better and bigger by deflating you with talk that he knows you don't like! Pray and do what you must do.....I like what Greg, Mike and Steve in AZ posted! God Bless and remember prayer changes things from trials and turns it around for our good and for God's purpose! Saving souls is God's purpose and He should always get the glory for what He does in our lives! :angel:

God Bless!
Betty
 
Kill em with kindness, they never expect love and adoration. I have had to bite my tongue a few times. Didn't much care for it. But the end result? Sometimes it takes a while, depending on their resistance. Who knows, you may create a valuable Allie.
 
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