I usually don't burden everyone else with personal problems but at this time I find myself needing a shoulder to lean on........ :sadwalk:

[therick]

My father-in-law's name is Jack Heiring. He is one of the finest people that you could ever meet. The type of person that will give you the shirt off of his back, the last dollar in his wallet, the shoes off of his feet if you needed it more than he did. He's a Deacon at his church and I don't think he's ever missed a day when the doors were open. He was a contractor all of his life and I suppose he's built around 300 houses and other structures over his career. He's been married for 47 years (wife Betty) and raised 4 children, my wife, Debbie, being the oldest.

Jack was diagnosed with cancer and at this time he has been released from the hospital and placed under the care of hospice.

I went through this 20 years ago with my Dad and for some reason I am having an extremely difficult time dealing with this. I loved my Dad very much, he was only 20 when I was born so as I grew older he was still a young man so we did a lot of things together. We fished a lot, played baseball and basketball together and even worked together from time to time at some of the businesses that he would open. He was quite the entrepreneur.

The only thing I can think of is this......... my father was 48 when he died and there is not a day that goes by that I don't think of him and wish he was still here. I hate the fact that he was not able to watch his grand kids grow up and see what great, successful young people that they have become. My chest swells with pride every time I get to opportunity to brag on them. I think the fact that I miss my Dad and now that I am going through this with Jack, whom I also love and have a great deal of admiration for, my feelings are just over loaded with sorrow. I have tears in my eyes even now as I am trying to convey this post.

I try to stay strong for my wife and her family but I get closer and closer to losing it every day. I just want to sit in a corner by myself and ball my eyes out. Jack , of course is well aware of what is going on and puts on a brave front as well but I can see in his eyes the pain that he is going through and the difficulty that he has in trying to keep a positive attitude and a smile on his face. It's hard on everyone.
I am a Christian and I pray a lot for him and his family. I now pray for him to be comfortable, pain free, and lucid. I hate to see him hurt the most.

The next time you have the opportunity to bow your head in prayer, please keep Jack in mind. If God ever built a proto-type of what he would like to see in a human being, Jack is pretty darn close.

Thanks for listening,

Sincerely,
Rick Tumbleston

 

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I know how much loss I felt when my father in law and mother in law left along with my own mother who died of cancer and father who did get to live a long life---Go find someplace where you can let it out---It will help some--D.W.

 

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[Lawrence in Alabama]

with your Dad. DW is right about getting away from everyone and let it all out. I don't know what is best for Jack or you, but God does and he will see you through this most difficult of times!

 

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