Randy Cosner
New member
I just want to thank you all for being a here for me for the last 7 years. I have been through many trials and tribulation's in those last seven years and your prayers have got me through them. I have faith in God. These last two months have been my rock bottom. As you know Kathy and I have been married for 19 years and we are getting a divorce. When I first started to asked for your prayers you gave them and you were a source of support.
Then when we decided to get a divorce it seemed like some of you thought that we should not get a divorce (which I understand) and try and make the marriage work. I have tried to make this marriage work and I have worked hard at it for the last several months. Kathy has not tried and had her mind was set the she did not love me anymore, that she did not think she loved me when we got married, and that she has no connection to me at all anymore. This is why I told you that you needed to walk a mile in my shoes before you passed judgement on my discussion.
Before my decision to get a divorce I had prayed everyday for God to show me the way, to open the doors I needed to go through to better myself and my family. God did open doors for me, and he did make me a better person. I also asked God to heal Kathy's heart and to show her the way and open doors for her too. I do not know what doors he opened for her and if she even let him start to heal her heart. All this time I had a painful heart, I had a heavy weight on my shoulders, and I felt like crying all the time. The night before I asked Kathy for a divorce I prayed once again that God show me the way and that he open doors for me. I then heard him say to me "You need to give it all to me". I then realized that I had not given it all to God, that I was still holding on to my problem. So at that time I gave it all to God. I slept well that night.
The next morning I was at work and I heard a voice tell me to go home and talk to Kathy. So I went home and talked with Kathy. I asked her if she felt any different towards our relationship. Kathy said no, that she does not need me in her life other than being the father to our children, that's she does not need any man in her life at all. I then told her that we needed to do something then. Kathy asked if I wanted a separation or the "Big D"? I asked her what the "Big D" was and she said a divorce. I looked in her eyes and saw that there was no love in her eyes towards me and that there was still no connection. It was at that time I told her 'I want a Divorce". As soon as I said those four words all the weight on my shoulders, all the pressure on my heart, and all the tears that were ready to flow where gone. It all was lifted from me. It was then that I knew that this was God's will and that I had given it all to him.
Kathy and I are still friends and we are working things out equally in the divorce. We are doing what we need to do to make sure the children come first. It is working and things are falling into place. I am sorry if some of you think that we should have stayed together, but if we have stayed together any longer it would have only hurt the children. They would have had parents that did not love each other and staying in the marriage just to make it look like a family should.
I still love Kathy and always will. We have agreed that we to end this relationship the way it started and that is as friends. I hope you can understand now why we have decided on the divorce.
Then when we decided to get a divorce it seemed like some of you thought that we should not get a divorce (which I understand) and try and make the marriage work. I have tried to make this marriage work and I have worked hard at it for the last several months. Kathy has not tried and had her mind was set the she did not love me anymore, that she did not think she loved me when we got married, and that she has no connection to me at all anymore. This is why I told you that you needed to walk a mile in my shoes before you passed judgement on my discussion.
Before my decision to get a divorce I had prayed everyday for God to show me the way, to open the doors I needed to go through to better myself and my family. God did open doors for me, and he did make me a better person. I also asked God to heal Kathy's heart and to show her the way and open doors for her too. I do not know what doors he opened for her and if she even let him start to heal her heart. All this time I had a painful heart, I had a heavy weight on my shoulders, and I felt like crying all the time. The night before I asked Kathy for a divorce I prayed once again that God show me the way and that he open doors for me. I then heard him say to me "You need to give it all to me". I then realized that I had not given it all to God, that I was still holding on to my problem. So at that time I gave it all to God. I slept well that night.
The next morning I was at work and I heard a voice tell me to go home and talk to Kathy. So I went home and talked with Kathy. I asked her if she felt any different towards our relationship. Kathy said no, that she does not need me in her life other than being the father to our children, that's she does not need any man in her life at all. I then told her that we needed to do something then. Kathy asked if I wanted a separation or the "Big D"? I asked her what the "Big D" was and she said a divorce. I looked in her eyes and saw that there was no love in her eyes towards me and that there was still no connection. It was at that time I told her 'I want a Divorce". As soon as I said those four words all the weight on my shoulders, all the pressure on my heart, and all the tears that were ready to flow where gone. It all was lifted from me. It was then that I knew that this was God's will and that I had given it all to him.
Kathy and I are still friends and we are working things out equally in the divorce. We are doing what we need to do to make sure the children come first. It is working and things are falling into place. I am sorry if some of you think that we should have stayed together, but if we have stayed together any longer it would have only hurt the children. They would have had parents that did not love each other and staying in the marriage just to make it look like a family should.
I still love Kathy and always will. We have agreed that we to end this relationship the way it started and that is as friends. I hope you can understand now why we have decided on the divorce.
Ma Bety