I just found out a few days ago that my oldest sister and her husband are coming back to Michigan to visit in July...for those that arent familiar with the details;this older brother in law of mine taught me to have a terrible temper;and when he was younger,he terrorized me and my whole family(including his wife-MY SISTER) with EXTREME fits of rage directed at us;especially me...2 years ago,he told my sister to get the #$%^ out,and dont come back....my sister then moved to Texas and got a job and a place of her own...In the last year;she has gotten to where she needed hip surgery,couldnt get around well-Her husband moved down there to take care of her-According to my sisters;he has REALLY changed.Today,my other 2 sisters and me and my wife had lunch-My youngest sister handed me a flyer advertising a "FAMILY GET-TOGETHER ON JULY 12TH-COOK/OUT-horseshoes,badminton;banana splits-lots of fun"!!!She then told me my oldest sister and her husband will be staying with her for a week at that time(She knows what I went thru at the hands of my brother-in-law;and that I havent come to grips with it yet.) NOW-Before that when I was at church this morning;I was wrestling with this issue of whether I wanted to see him again or not,and at lunch my sister asked me if I would be there.WELL-at church as part of our regular Sunday Worship service;we recite the prayer that Jesus taught us:"OUR FATHER ;WHO ART IN HEAVEN"...When we got to the part "FORGIVE US OUR TRESPASSES,AS WE FORGIVE THOSE WHO TRESPASS AGAINST US";a thought occured to me:HOW can I expect GOD to forgive me;when I have held this against my brother in law for SO LONG???To be honest;yesterday I wished he would just die;so I wouldnt have to face him again...I believe that THE LORD spoke to me thru the LORDS PRAYER;and told me FORGIVE HIM;AS I FORGIVE YOU....SO:I told my sister,"OF COURSE I WILL BE THERE!!!"Actually,his birthday is the end of July(he will be 80); we are also celebrating my youngest sister's granddaughters' birthday that day,too...my sister gave me a BIG hug,and said"I was SO afraid you were going to say you wont be there"...I then related some of the gospel to my whole family about forgiveness-and that WHILE YOU CANT CHANGE THE PAST;YOU CAN CHANGE THE FUTURE-If I had refused to go because he was there;it would have cast a cloud over an otherwise happy day-AND: I would have been responsible for it.THEN I remembered something and told them "HEY-YOU ALL REMEMBER MY BIRTHDAY IS IN AUGUST,RIGHT??"In any event;we WILL be there July 12th!!!
