Everything that glitters is not gold

[scubadetector]

I lurk on this forum sometimes looking for answers and sometimes to see how other Christians go through adversity. I have always believed in prayer but I have been very scared of answers lately. I am a very successful detercorist but the rest of my life is in ruins. Some of it my fault some of it beyond my control.

For a year and 5 months I was the primary caregiver for my wife. I stayed with her while she was dying of rhumitoid lung desease. Her arthritus went to her lungs and slowly suffocated her. We used up every bit of our savings and couldn't make our house payments. Our church was no help even though she was a honest tithe payer. I lost all respect for the LDS church because of that and other things.

My wife ran our computer shop. Without her I had NO idea on how to run things. I just knew how to fix computers. Now I have lost my house to forclosure and only have 3 more months to stay there. I only have a part time job and can't find work in Michigan. I have 3 cats and a dog and can't part with them.

Anyway, my wife died how we prayed. Peacefully in her sleep on July 30th of 1006 in our home. We built the house together and a lot of her memories are there. It is so very hard to know that I have to leave it. I know its only materialistic but to me its more than that. It was our dream home.

Anyway, I don't really know what I am asking why I am opening up to strangers. I have procrastinated and I have made some poor choices and I have to live with them. I have not lost my integrity or honesty but I have NO idea as to where in life the Lord wants me to go, but I know I am scared of the answers.

 

[Magyar]

Scubadetector, First I want to extend my deepest sympthy on the passing of your beloved wife. I know that she must have suffered intensely with rheumatoid lung disease. I will pray for her and I am sure that she is peaceful and enjoying happiness beyond compare in the arms of God.

God bless you for your devotion to your wife as you were the primary care giver in the last years of her life...this was a huge responsiblity and a difficult one , I know.

I am glad that you posted on this forum. this is a God -centered forum with the most caring, kind and considerate people I have ever met . I am the first to respond to your post, but I know there will many more replies from members who are genuinely concerned for you. We all face difficulties in our lives, and the people on this forum are compassionate and understanding and so willing to get each of us through our trials in life.

Your integrity and honesty, with God's assistance will see you through your present trials.

I'm sure there are social services available to you which will assist you in finding a residence that allows pets. You should not have to part with you pets ; they are your companions and solace so keep them and insist to the agencies that you will not part with them.

Pray , pray, pray to God to guide you in all decisions...He will help you and provide for you...He will open doors for you .

I will pray every day for you , Scubadetector asking God to assist you , protect you and bless you and your pets always!

Lorraine

p.s. please stay with us on this forum

 

[jassenmacher]

Scuba,

Very sorry about your wife. Like you I often surf the board but do not always post. Not sure why it happens but I have come to believe that no one is immune to the harsh pitfalls of life. Some get hit harder then others. What I do believe, is that when you have fallen the farthest the Lord will be the first to pick you up, but only when you are willing to let him. This has been my experience, I will pray that you experience the same.

From a fellow Michigander, detectorist and scuba diver!

 

[dobbie]

I will pray for you as well that God brings peace to your heart and lifts you up over these hard times that you may be victorious in the hands of our Lord. Please read Pslam 91 for it is my favorite...He that dwelleth in the secret place of the most high shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. ...
Living Bible.....We that live within the shadow of the Almighty, sheltered by the God who is above all gods. This I declare, that he alone is my refuge, my place of safety. He is my God, and I am trusting Him........He will shield you with His wings They will shelter you. His faithful promises are your armor. Now you dont need to be afraid of the dark anymore, nor fear the dangers of the day..........

May God keep you under His divine protection and light the way you shall go. God Bless...

 

[steve in so la]

Life is sometimes in the trenches and sometimes out. We are presented with problems either from choice or from the Lord. How we react to them is what He wants to see. Think back in your Bible readings about all the times the people went through trials. They always come out better and, moreso, to the Lord's way of doing things.

I'm surprised the Mormon church didn't help you. The few Mormons I have known are great people when it comes to family & caring. Basically, the bottom line with the Lord is "how will you handle the problems in your life". The book of Job is a good example.We all have had big & small problems to work through, never the loss of my wife, but many somewhat smaller. I sure will pray that you will find help through reading your Bible and maybe meeting someone to talk upfront with.
I'll pray for your situation, keep in touch with us here on the forum, you are family now, steve in so az.

 

[Gunswinger]

We are sorry for the passing of your wife. I know that God will comfort you thru the Holy Spirit. This life is but a vapor, soon past and you will see her again. The word of God says That He will supply all your need according to His riches in Glory. and also that He is an every present help in the time of trouble. Also where any two shall agree as touching any one thing it shall be done. So we will agree together that God will lead you to the people and places that you need that He can provide for you. God Bless my friend, we are praying for you.

 

[rentasquid]

Like the other posts, I too am sorry to hear of the sorrow and difficulty that you are facing in life. Steve made mention of Job in his post, and it certainly sounds like you are on a very "Job-like" path right now. But, like Job, you can still cling to the Lord. His ways are not our ways, and His understandings are not ours either. Job didnt understand why God would allow the trial to swamp him, but he was blessed beyond his dreams. I will pray that you will be too! And, dont be afraid of Gods answers...unless you are afraid of what God wants from you.

J.

 

[Mike Chgo area]

I know what you mean about answers to prayer. But I have come to trust HE will do what is best for me. We may be strangers but also I'll be praying for you.

 

[Anonymous]

Well, looks like you have been given much knowledge in the previous posts, scubadetector, and I don't know if I can add to it as they are all good! I, too, am sorry concerning the loss of your wife and God Bless you for being her caretaker, for many husbands would have put their spouses in nursing homes because of illnesses! She was also blessed to have you there with her until her spirit went back to God Who gave it!

Like J said don't be afraid of God's answers and be sincere and willing when you pray to let His will be done in your life! He won't allow anything to harm you by allowing Him to work all things out for your good....by loving God....and for His purpose! (RO 8:2 The trials in our lives either draw us nearer to our Savior, Jesus, are farther away from Him by being angry and bitter while blaming God for all our problems!

Believe me, I didn't understand Him at all when my ex-husband of almost 33 years left and divorced me! I blamed God and not myself but both my ex and I were part of the problem! He couldn 't leave the women alone and I was sad all the time from the way we lived our married life! I never felt loved as a child nor in my marriage! But it was my attitude too that made life miserable! After the divorce and after his lying to the children who also deserted me for quite a while, everything has mended and my heart is now full of love (God's love) and things are much better with them! I rec 3 Mother's Day cards and 2 phone calls from 2 daughters and a son! We hug when we see each other and say we love each other! Love conquers all!!!

Please do not blame yourself either and think God won't help you, for He will as He is no respector of person! He loves you the same as He loves each of the sisters and brothers on this forum! Like Steve said, Job is a good book to read and see what awful trials he had but yet God restored him and he was better off than he was when he lost everything but his wife, and she told him to curse God and die! Job knew better than that and drew even closer to Him although he suffered terribly! Jesus also stayed with God, His Father, when He was being crucified and dying in the most horriblest pain that anyone could or can imagine! Yet, God has given His only begotten Son the Kingdom to rule and reign over forever more!

I will be praying for you to have His perfect labor sent unto you and that you will find a really Spirit-filled church to attend and see the love of our Savior flowing through the members there and give you comfort and strength to continue on in Jesus' powerful love and healing virtue! A heart that is broken can be made whole in Him and will be by putting your whole trust in Jesus and by leaning on Him in total faith that He will do what He says in God's Holy Word! Jesus is the Living Word and He is alive and will guide and direct your footsteps as you yield fully unto Him, and He will never leave nor forsake you! Pray, give Him thanks.....even before you see the answers.....and give Him praise in all things.....whether good or bad, for the good elates you up above life's sorrows and trials, while the bad times draw you nearer and nearer to Him, if you truly love Him, as your own persoanl Savior and Lord!

Sorry, your church didn't help you in your financial troubles and it isn't the only one, as I've known others who have asked for financial help after giving their love gifts and tithes, but the leaders of the church body will have to ansswer to that! I pray you will grow in godly wisdom and are blessed to arise above your problems and healing will come to your soul and spirit, so your mind and body can function with not so much grief but more happiness in our Father God and His Beloved Son, Jesus! We all care and want to help you as much as we are able to do....................so whenever you need someone to comfort and encourage you please post and ask! Jesus loves you and we love you, too!

Give God Jehovah glory and praise, for He is the One and Only God, Who will lead you on His path of righteousness to be holy as Jesus is holy!

If at times you fail, just call upon Him and say you're sorry, Lord, please help me to do better and He will! We are perfected in Christ by His shed blood, but we still have our imperfect bodies and the selfish flesh yearns to do wrong but in the Holy Spirit we will do more right than wrong!


May God Bless you and may you be walking on His narrow way with a straight gate to enter into His presence, for broad is the way with a wide gate that is enlarging itself, so more will find it easily..............satan will never give you peace, but wants to steal, kill and destroy everything that he can! Don't let him cause you to lose your way, as God is goooooood all the time! Satan is evil all the time! So choose eternal life and not the second death which is an everlasting punishment for all who do not choose or believe in Jesus!

I hope I have not offended you in any way and our prayers and hope lie only in Christ Jesus, Whose free gift is life everlasting in a City made of pure gold!

.I now thank God for that horrible trial which I had to go through, but I made it and I thank Him for waking me up to become a true Christian for serving Him!

God Bless and keep in touch!

Betty

Betty

 

[Mike from MI "Iron Brigade"]

Where in MI are you located? next if you Seek Him with all your heart, and you will find Him. He will be with you through all of this. Prayers from your friends start now. Even though sometimes the answers are not the ones we want, His plan for you is good!
Read Jer. 29:11

 

[scubadetector]

I took off yesterday so I could dive and forget life for awhile again. Maybe good maybe bad. I am in Port Huron MI. I wouldn't have even dreamed of putting my wife in a home. We built our house together and it was hers. And I am completely BITTER to the Mormon church. I guess that is one of my problems right now. I don't know what church to go to. I have tried a few. One closed down on me and that was STRANGE. It was a Wesylan church. The first time I went the sermon was "Sometime You Have to Rebuild. It hit me like a ton of bricks and I needed it. I thought I was prompted to go there. Two weeks later I went and it had CLOSED. I have NEVER seen a church close. It was recently sold after about 7 months on the market. I might go back. I tried another church in the area but it seemed like they were mainly interested in their TV broadcast.

Anyway thanks all for your thoughts and prayers. Leaving the house that Alison and I built is going to be very difficult. Not as difficult as watching her slowly die but it will be a lot of memories and dreams that will be gone and I will have to start over again. Peace be with you all. And thank you again.

Robert

 

[Mike from MI "Iron Brigade"]

I would suggest a non-denominational church. Find one that preaches right from the Bible. Also if there is a smaller one in your area try that. Like 300 or less.
Still praying for you. I am in SW MI between Battle Creek and kalamazoo.