I got a letter from my oldest sister...:shrug:

[warthog]

..she says her and her husband(the one thats mistreated her for 40+years)are for sure getting back together.They love each other deeply,and will be together till they die.How marvelous...2 years ago-while he was in the hospital-he told her to get the @#$% out,and he never wanted to see her again.THATS been goin on for MANY years...she says they will be home sometime next summer to see their families.I told her-and my other sisters a few months ago-When he kicked her out the last time and left her homeless,I'd had my fill of him-He used to terrorize me when I was young with his temper.I also told all my sisters a few months ago that if he is at any family gathering;I WILL NOT be there.At my families' Christmas dinner;I thought my youngest sister was too quiet when I brought up the subject of our sister and her husband.I believe she knew more than she was letting on...PROBLEM IS:her husband has told my other sisters about how crazy our oldest sister is.It will probably turn out she will say he's changed and is just like the Pope;my other sisters will welcome him back just like nothing happened,and I will look like an ass-WHY???Like I said before-I WONT GO to ANY family gatherings if he's there...None of you will ever have to find out;I pray,what its like having to walk on egg-shells at every family gathering cause you are afraid someone's gonna say or do something to set off his incredibly nasty temper.

 

[vstar2007]

I was a police officer for over 15 years, and I could never understand why people stayed in an abusive relationship, but they like your sister said they loved him or her in some cases. Your family will be in our prayers. We hope all turns out OK for all of you.

David

 

[John(H)]

Warthog, maybe that is why you love TH"'ing so much, 1) it is a good reason to get out of the house or the family gathering, 2) it gives one quality time to be alone(with God) and time to think things thru and just some good old quality peace of mind! I'm with you, if a member of the family is causing that much disheaval, I would never go to any family functions where they are included!. If your absense causes some problems, so be it! It is better to be absense than attend where one may tend to lose it and really cause some family problems! Of course, one needs to stand up for oneself! Also if the brother-in-law does any thing againt the law such as physically hit your sister he needs to be reported to the police and arrested! Some families try to hid hide and protect these family members instead of calling the cops!............................................GOD BLESS.................Joe