my mother in law hates me now......:thumbdown:

[warthog]

...because I dared to voice my displeasure to something she said to me that irritated me.She has an abrasive,vindictive side-She can say anything she wants,no matter how hurtful,and everybody has to live with it.After I expressed my displeasure of her comment;she came lookin for bear,she said"STEVE;I WANT TO TALK TO YOU"-After the "talking"was done -by her-It was plain I was as popular to her as Judas Iscariot was-and is-to her.....she proceeded to yell in DETAIL what she said first to offend me;then apologized to me,sayin she was sorry I was the type of person that couldnt take her "consturctive criticism"...by the end of her "TALK",she was screaming and swearing at the top of her lungs at me-She does the same thing to her husband;daily-Over a simple statement that she said to me that hurt my feelings.I have done SO MUCH GOOD for my in-laws;wont give details;but I have done right by them,and DID NOT DESERVE this kind of treatment...If I was beating their daughter;or a deadbeat,I could see it-ALL THRU her tirade,I said NOT A WORD back to her;I knew it would not do any good-AND on my way to work;I called her to apologize to her-FOR WHAT;didnt matter,I just thought I should-And she hung up on me....I called my wife and told her what happened,and told her "your mother now thinks Im an @#$hole,because I stood up to her,AND I DID NOT deserve gettin treated that way-This really hurts,let me tell ya's......I have great respect for my in-laws,but I dont want to go back for another round of that,either.......Steve

 

[DK]

Just pray for her Steve. Satan uses many tools to try and get us to fall or feel bad. Ask God to help you deal with this situation. We are praying for you.

 

[Mike from MI "Iron Brigade"]

Forgive and forget as Jesus does for us. The forgetting is hardest part. No need for her to say I'm sorry, just go to her and say I forgive you for chewing me out, and may the Good Lord bless you. You might be surprised how humbling this can make someone. The giver and receiver.

God bless.

 

[steve in so la]

either put up with it forever or put her in her place. You have a life to live also, Steve in so az

 

[TreasureDigger]

Steve,

I really feel for you buddy! I've been in your shoes more times than I'd like to remember. I've not voiced an opinion or anything else, yet have been targeted quite a few times by Tim's daddy, my mother, and a couple of others. It's no fun to be on the receiving end of a tongue lashing, especially when you didn't do ANYTHING to deserve it. It hurts, it's frustrating, and it's damaging. Like Doug said, "Satan uses many tools to try and get us to fall or feel bad." Pray for your mother-in-law and do all you can to bless her! Be the bigger person and forgive her and YOU will be blessed for it. You might not see it as quick as you would like, but God WILL bless you for it in His own way, and in his own time. I have to agree with Steve in so az too! Sometimes, even when you forgive and move on, it still requires putting someone in their place to bring the verbal abuse cycle to an end. If you feel this is something you have to do, pray about it and use Godly wisdom in how you do it and the words you use to do it with. You don't want to make a bad situation even worse. I will be praying for ya!

Lisa

 

[Goes4ever]

I agree 100% with Steve.........you did the right thing, you cannot let her walk all over you. I have had the same battles in my family. I stood my ground, I will NOT let someone else run my life. I have to be responsible for my family and what happens, sometimes you just have to speak up.

Remember being a Christian does mean you have to be weak and let others walk over you.

 

[steve in so la]

being a Christian does NOT mean - etc Steve

 

[warthog]

n/t

 

[Goes4ever]

being a Christian does NOT mean - etc Steve

OOPS, yes I forgot the word "NOT" and I cannot edit it! thanks for that Steve!