ONE DAY before that test my wife was supposed to have,MOTHER NATURE came knocking at her door;and they had to cancel the test till afterward...as for everyone else giving her support,she is sweet kind and thankful toward them...as for ME??? Here we go again-Everything I do and say is wrong....she is scared;and taking it out on me,the one that is on her side,not against her.....EVERY time I say'its probably just something minor';or whatever to try to calm her,is met by "EASY FOR YOU TO SAY!!or HOW WOULD YOU FEEL ABOUT IT??"...Anybody else that says that hears"yeah,probably-Im not gonna worry about it"... then she tears into me.......If this turns out just to be something minor;I will see the way she is treating me as a barometer in case something major happens to one of us; and it wont take me long to figure out Im better off by myself.I KNOW she doesnt deserve any of this-but neither do I....
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prayers for my wife;and ME,please...
- Thread starter warthog
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My wife DID admit she was feeling sorry for herself;and sooner or later she will apologoze for this or that...I see that I am her sounding board;and she is
ing TO me;not AT me...Actually,there is not much I can do for her till after that test,excpet I guess grow another layer of THICK SKIN....
ing TO me;not AT me...Actually,there is not much I can do for her till after that test,excpet I guess grow another layer of THICK SKIN....Pete in MI
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saying nothing is better...but replace the 'nothing' with a loving hug and a "God will see us through this. You are not alone. Jesus is with you and so am I." Just embrace each other. I have been in situations where I wanted to fix things. My woman is crying and not saying anything...how can you fix something if she doesn't say anything? Trying to force her to open up only caused more pain.
I was better off just holding her. In another case my wife (not the same one) confided in me her complaint. Determined to "fix it - make it right', I jumped down other peoples throats causing more damage than what had already been done. Later she told me she needed to just 'vent' and let off some steam. She didn't want me to fix anything and now she had damage control to do because I tried to make something right.
So you see, sometimes it is best to just hug and let her know she is not alone and God is in control. Together, her, you and God will get through this. When we are weak, He is strong.
Praying for you both and Boomer too.
I was better off just holding her. In another case my wife (not the same one) confided in me her complaint. Determined to "fix it - make it right', I jumped down other peoples throats causing more damage than what had already been done. Later she told me she needed to just 'vent' and let off some steam. She didn't want me to fix anything and now she had damage control to do because I tried to make something right.
So you see, sometimes it is best to just hug and let her know she is not alone and God is in control. Together, her, you and God will get through this. When we are weak, He is strong.
Praying for you both and Boomer too.
The Lord will take care of her.
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I am praying for you and your wife and I agree completely with Pete's post! As a woman, who needed to vent her feelings, I too would tell my ex about things, but instead of his hugging me and telling me everything would work out, he would be angry with me and say I am a hypocondriac, which is the worst thing any one can say when a person is in pain and ill! I suffered with a hemoraging tumor for five years before I could get the drs to tell me that it wasn't in my mind but needed surgery....most would just give me anti-depressants and I stayed in a fog too much!
Keep the faith Steve and put your wife and the problems in His hands and He will see you both through and put you on top of the world, so to speak, and this is being elated above all that is sinful and bad! God is good and will not fail you by trusting and giving Him the praise and glory for all He does in our lives!
God Bless!
Betty
Keep the faith Steve and put your wife and the problems in His hands and He will see you both through and put you on top of the world, so to speak, and this is being elated above all that is sinful and bad! God is good and will not fail you by trusting and giving Him the praise and glory for all He does in our lives!
God Bless!
Betty
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You have to realize that your wife's reaction is because she is scared. It's sorta like the laugh reaction some people have when they get really scared. If you understand that she is really lashing out at her illness and not you, you can perhaps react differently. You have to be there for her as she would be there for you.
We feel comfortable with our mates and feel that we can express an entire range of emotions; even the negative ones.
May the Lord bless you and keep you
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We feel comfortable with our mates and feel that we can express an entire range of emotions; even the negative ones.
May the Lord bless you and keep you
Crabby