Pete in MI
New member
Will pray Randy...
Here is some things I have come to know...women want to be touched...being touched when you are passing by lets her know you still love her...she is not being rejected. She might be sitting in a recliner with her shoes off and feet up and you walk by time after time without saying anything or making eye contact or even touching her to acknowledge she is alive..she feels hurt and rejected...simply stopping or slowing down and just touching her toes, looking into her eyes and a smile is all ya need to reassure her you still care.
A foot massage is something I have never seen a woman turn down and they melt. Being on their feet all day and putting their feet up is one thing but for someone to stop what they are doing and massage those sore achy feet is wonderful...you care enough to stop, you love her enough to be gentle and she feels better in many ways.
Another thing which I have done is get sticky notes...draw a heart or two on each one (overlapping hearts is probably even better than a single heart), then stick the notes with the hearts all over the house, in the car, in her purse (in the wallet with her drivers license), where ever she might open a door or drawer, etc. I did this with Sherry and every time she say one she was reminded how much I love her...some she probably has still yet to find...anyway she sees them then reminds herself (1) you went out of your way to get sticky notes, (2) you drew a heart or hearts on each one, (3) you took time to 'hide' them all over so each would be a surprise - you did all these things because...you love her.
The world is a lousy place...even lousier when the police are hated instead of respected and even harder to do the job you have to do. I know many an officer who got divorced, lost themselves in alcohol, hid themselves away to keep from getting more dumped on...this takes a toll on the wife - you helpmate and your family who need you and want your attention and love which they will return to you as well....especially when you need it most. Vegging and turning your back on the family will not help you or the family...it just makes matters worse. You have no safe haven to come home to...home should be a safe haven from the troubles and hatred of the world.
I will pray Randy. I hope these ideas help.
Here is some things I have come to know...women want to be touched...being touched when you are passing by lets her know you still love her...she is not being rejected. She might be sitting in a recliner with her shoes off and feet up and you walk by time after time without saying anything or making eye contact or even touching her to acknowledge she is alive..she feels hurt and rejected...simply stopping or slowing down and just touching her toes, looking into her eyes and a smile is all ya need to reassure her you still care.
A foot massage is something I have never seen a woman turn down and they melt. Being on their feet all day and putting their feet up is one thing but for someone to stop what they are doing and massage those sore achy feet is wonderful...you care enough to stop, you love her enough to be gentle and she feels better in many ways.
Another thing which I have done is get sticky notes...draw a heart or two on each one (overlapping hearts is probably even better than a single heart), then stick the notes with the hearts all over the house, in the car, in her purse (in the wallet with her drivers license), where ever she might open a door or drawer, etc. I did this with Sherry and every time she say one she was reminded how much I love her...some she probably has still yet to find...anyway she sees them then reminds herself (1) you went out of your way to get sticky notes, (2) you drew a heart or hearts on each one, (3) you took time to 'hide' them all over so each would be a surprise - you did all these things because...you love her.
The world is a lousy place...even lousier when the police are hated instead of respected and even harder to do the job you have to do. I know many an officer who got divorced, lost themselves in alcohol, hid themselves away to keep from getting more dumped on...this takes a toll on the wife - you helpmate and your family who need you and want your attention and love which they will return to you as well....especially when you need it most. Vegging and turning your back on the family will not help you or the family...it just makes matters worse. You have no safe haven to come home to...home should be a safe haven from the troubles and hatred of the world.
I will pray Randy. I hope these ideas help.