Update

[TreasureDigger]

Thought I would send a quick update. Tim is still pouting and acting like a baby. Last night he broke his silence briefly to tell me how he was feeling (crazy stuff). I took my turn after he was done and, of course, it made him worse. He is back to talking about wanting a divorce (like he used to do)... blah, blah, blah........... He thinks the very LEAST little things are a tragedy in his life. He comes from a family who live(d) miserable, unhappy lives, and he continues the tradition. I thought he had gotten over most of that, even though I would still see brief periods of it, but it's back with a vengeance. Sooooooooo negative, unhappy, critical, depressed, thinks every little thing is the end of the world, etc. Refuses to eat (whatever... how childish is that), sits and stares at the fire in the fire place.................. Yes, he takes an antidepressant, and has for years, so that's not an issue. I would suggest him seeing his dr to up it or change it, but HE is not the one with the problem; according to him, it's me, the rest of the family, and the rest of the world. We desperately need your prayers. I'm heading out the door now to finish doing some things around the Smokies that we had not gotten around to yet. I reckon he is staying here to pout and wallow in his self pity and tragic life. Please pray for him to come to his senses. Would be nice if it happened while I was gone. Miracles DO happen, ya know.

Lisa

 

[Mike from MI "Iron Brigade"]

I will pray that you both come together in agreeance as the Lord would have you. Be blessed and love one another. Do not let the devil have a foothold as he is having fun in all this. Give God the glory!

 

[SeniorSeeker]

Merry Christmas Lisa (and Family),

You know ... my ex-wife was very much like what you describe here. God knows I did everything humanly possible to bring joy, peace, and love into the relationship, including speaking with the pastor of our church but little, if anything, worked. I know all too well how frustrating that can be. We finally did divorce (and I won't go into that here) but, to this day, I wish we could have saved the marriage. I've been single now for nearly twenty-five years and haven't found 'Miss Right' yet and, at 65 years of age, probably won't but it would be wonderful to share the remainder of life with a significant other. Both of you will be in my thoughts and prayers for healing. May God's Holy Spirit be at work in your marriage. And may your 'New Year' be one of Joy, Peace, and Love. Amen.

 

[Randy Cosner]

n/t

 

[Anonymous]

I pray, Lisa, that you and Tim do not end up in a divorce because that is not fun to go through and the stress is terrible and also a heartache of losing someone you've had as a spouse for many, many years! Life without each other would be much harder, as the grass is not greener on the otherside of the fence! Most second, third and so forth marriages usually don't work or aren't much better than the first!

If you really do want him to change, then tell and show him you love him regardless of what he says or does and PRAY for him and ask God to show you what is wrong on both sides of the marriage and be willing to change yourself, if part of the problem is you! Marriage is a two-way street and it takes both working at it to make it last!

I can tell you what I think is wrong with Tim besides depression is the background of the family he was raised with and he is angry, feels unloved and is lost in his misery without knowing what he really must do or doesn't want to do it, as it is too hard for him to handle and put forth the effort! How do I know this.....the background is a lot like mine and I learned too late on how to save my marriage, although my ex was a woman chaser and an adulterer, so when I learned about that, I would have never and don't want him back!

Tim is seeking love and acceptance and wants it without his having to do anything, so that he knows you really love him! I've been there and was rejected as a child by my father, so wanted that from my ex, but would push him away, so I could be sure he truly loved me by loving me just as I was! It never worked....because he didn't have a loving father, either! Maybe Tim's mother and father both rejected him and he is seeking love without being rejected again!

Just my thoughts and I know it is hard on both of you with each working against the other, or you putting out more effort than him, but he probably is just not able and needs more of Jesus and medication to help him feel better and think realisticly! Prayers for you and family! May God Bless you both and your children! Ma Betty

 

[seeker41]

well...... i will definitely pray that you all wont end up getting a divorce!!!!!! if you can get him to the doctor please do so! my wife went off the deep end a few years back and after going to the doc we found out she had thyroid disease(hyperactive) and was really messing her up physically and mentally! please make sure you don't get a divorce because your husband is sick, physically or mentally!

 

[7centsworth]

I will be praying for the both of you. Trust in GOD and do not let anger get the best of you as it can make you miserable. You likke to hike and there are some trails down there that you can stop on and get alone with GOD and have a real good talk with GOD. I pray that our Lord GOD will heal yalls marriage and make yalls hearts happy again.
Maybe even try fasting a day or two . I did that for a problem that was going on in our family and GOD took care os the problem. Hang in there Lisa we are all praying for yall. You are family and I want the best for yall . I will keep you in prayer constantly in the next week. Keep us posted.