well the ohio mailman came on friday while i was at work - now i have the mumbles bad

[GraveDiggerMax-VaBch-Va]

it all started like on tues. or wed of last week.

i feel i must share this with u.


u remember the gold band i found for the fellow from ohio, well, like 3 weeks had passed and i had not received by ups charge he said he would pay - $8.64, so i called him up and asked him what was up with that.

max with the mumbles big time
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[Sanddigger]

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[Gulf Hunter]

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[ed-BOTD]

if that guy knows you at all--- he woulnt be trying to put a guilt trip on ya,,,,,,if he is trying,,,, i hope he losses it again,and when he does loss it ,,,there won't be an outstanding pirate like you to help him out,,,,,,,just my thoughts on the subject------edBOTD

 

[cubfan64]

I would feel badly too if I were in your shoes, but on the other hand you had no idea what his story was. If he was in such dire straits, he should have told you it would take him awhile to pay you back rather than just say he would do it - if he'd been up front about that, I'm sure you wouldn't have minded waiting.

If the guy is telling a genuine story, I can understand his side of it - but as I said before, it's not your fault you had no idea and it's not fair for him to lay a guilt trip on you.

FWIW, I've been fortunate enough to have given back a handful of things so far and only once have received any kind of "reward" in the form of a restaurant gift certificate (and that came 2-3 months after the return). I know alot of people won't agree with me, but returning each of those things made ME feel good and I knew I did the right thing each time - that's all that matters.

 

[BEACH HUNTER]

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[GraveDiggerMax-VaBch-Va]

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[bdahunter]

You didn't lose the ring, you found it.
You didn't ask for a reward, he offered it.
You sent him the ring in good faith and he didn't honour his part of the bargain.
Does it really suck to be scratching to make ends meet, of course; but you didn't make the guy poor and you couldn't know what a tough financial position he's in. (we're assuming that's the case) Asking the guy to honour his committment to pay the postage on the ring you returned is only reasonable.
You are DEFINITELY one of the GOOD GUYS! Don't sweat it.

Be Kewl,

BDA

 

[GraveDiggerMax-VaBch-Va]

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[Sanddigger]

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[BEACH HUNTER]

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[Joe G]

He's the one who should be feeling guilty... Your the one who did the right thing. He's the one who made a committment that he can't (or so he says) keep.

Go diggin' and find another one.

 

[PaPa-Joe-Fla.]

Max we all have to live with the decisions we make in life, you should be able to sleep at night knowing you did the right thing. On the other hand this other guy will surely have sleepless nights with the decision he made. Maybe ,just maybe some day he will hit the lottery and remember the guy who did the right thing one day on VA. beach and send you a huge reward. You are still the Man . HH

 

[Bobbie]

Most people who are truly poor and trying to make ends meet are very proud people and at least would have sent the postage right away. This guy sounds like what we call a "suit"........fancy clothes, car and home, works in an office and will make no bones about telling you how poor he is and will try to scam you out of 2 cents. Lets look at the main fact here. Of all places on earth, why would you take your wife and kids to a resort beach when there are plenty of public beaches close by. And another interesting point is, if he didn't have enough money for parking then where did they eat?....A loaf of bread and water maybe. How does one drive all night, spend the day at the beach and then drive all night to get back home with kids in the car.

Do not have the mumbles, you did the right thing, you did not ask for a finders fee or reward only to be re-reimbursed for your postage......the guy is a piece of turd to try a lay a guilt trip and scam you out of his end of the deal.

 

[Bobbie]

I do not expect any reward. It is nice to get one, especially if the person can afford it. I recently found a ring for a young man who wanted to pay me, but I could see he could not afford it and I flat out refused to accept it.

 

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[Macaco]

Maybe he could only afford one piece of paper so he skipped the paragraphs.

That's a really long, sad story and he tried to make you feel like a jerk by writing it. I could almost hear the violins.

Had it been me and I was in dire financial condition I would have written you a note and just said:

"Sorry dude. Money's really tight right now. I'll send you a check for the shipping cost next week when I get my paycheck. Thanks again for finding my ring. Sorry for the delay.

Cheers."

Maybe the guy is poor maybe he's not. Either way that letter is pretty damned goofy.

 

[RobRcer]

I would think if he was really poor, that he wouldnt of afforded a ring, and would have sold it anyway if he needed money. Also, a computer? I would think he would sell that to unless he desperately needed it? IDK, maybe im wrong, anyway, Max my friend. I think you did a great job!! HH

Robert

 

[Macaco]

The guy I know used to spend a lot of time at the beaches out here in California.

He found a lot of gold rings and had some kind magic for finding class rings.

When he would find a class ring he would track down the person who lost it through the school the ring was from. He'd call them up and offer to sell the ring back to them for current scrap value based on the gold karat rating.

If the person said no he'd just put the ring in his scrap container to sell to a gold buyer. If they said yes then he'd wait till he got the check then he'd send them the ring.

 

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